The approach looks something like this:
- Provide a non-judgmental description of the situation or behaviour which you believe needs to change;
- Explain your feelings on the matter;
- Point out the effect the situation or behaviour is having on you or your work.
The complex processes of leadership are perhaps over-simplified in this example. Nevertheless it prompted me to consider how we could learn from times at which we either fail to assert ourselves, or perhaps over-assert our opinions on others. Reflect on the following - writing in detail about what happened - in order to learn about your reactions to different situations, and consider the nature of the paths you might take in the future.
- Reflect on a situation when you felt that someone, or perhaps a processes or procedure, intruded on you or your ability to do your work, but you did not assert yourself. What happened?
- Reflect on a time when you were assertive and perhaps set about voicing your concerns in order to protected yourself. What happened?
- What conclusions can you draw from these situations, which might inform your reactions in the future?
Sullivan, S. & Glanz, J. (2006) Building Effective Learning Communities: Strategies for Leadership, Learning, & Collaboration. California: Corwin Press.